Okay everyone, now I have had way too many people ask me to tell them this story, and after too many times of re-telling, it Brittanee reminded me that I had a blog and that I should just write it down! Thanks Britt. lol.
I don’t really know where to start but here goes… so everyone already knows that I had a best friend or “wifey” as I called her since high school. We were really close and pretty much went everywhere together. Anyway, on with the story. So this girl I’ll call her…”Girl” for the purpose of anonymity.
So she calls me up on Thursday morning asking if I wanted to go out to Club Vesta (which is in the city) with her later that night since we had not gone clubbing together since we got home for winer break. But since I also know how expensive city parties are I asked her how much it was, and she said that it would be $5 before 11:30. Okay great I said, but also let her know that we definitely had to get there before then because I wasn’t trying to pay $20 for a party. She agreed and said that her boyfriend would be driving so we didn’t have to take the train, but to have at least $11 on us(my sister and I) so that we could help pay for tolls and parking. Okay BET!, all plans are made. Later on around 8 I start figuring out what I was planning on wearing and got dressed so that she could pick my sister and I up by 9:30.
So she comes to get us and of course my sister is not ready. 15 minutes later she finally decides to come down stairs. We get in the car and drive off to then remember that my sister and I definitely needed to go to the ATM. So “Girl” drops us back home and we get in Lissa(my sister)’s car to go to 7-11 and withdraw money (because their ATM’s don’t charge extra :-0.. shocking I know).
So we took our sweet time because we knew she wasn’t dressed yet, got something to eat, sat in the car, ate it, chilled, and then went over to her house at the same time her boyfriend was showing up.
If we knew what awaited us that night we would have turned around and went back home, but of course we cannot predict the future so we proceeded to enter the house.
When we got inside after the ample time we gave “Girl” to get dressed, we expected her to be about done, but of course she still only had on her tights and dress. With her hair undone, makeup not on, and shoes not chosen we anxiously rushed her since it was already 10:45 and we were supposed to leave the latest 10:15.
So after she finally got everything together and we left the house her boyfriend sped to the city and we arrived at exactly 11:31. After about 10 minutes of driving around the city trying to find the club, we finally found it and at a red light she told us to get out and go stand on the line while they drove to a hotel where his uncle was staying at to get the key (he was supposed to sleep there that night). A little baffled, my sister and I rushed to get out of the car before the light turned green leaving behind my purse which held my house keys, all my non-needed items for a club, and my sisters car keys. When we got to the sidewalk and they drove off we were a little upset about the fact that they would just drop us off at a red light instead of pulling to the side but didn’t really think much of it.
After we found the club, which unbenounced to us was right across the street, we got in the line and hoped that the price was at least 10 dollars since it was only 11:45. After 10 minutes standing on a never moving line, one of the bouncers announced that the new price was $20 for ladies and $25 for men. I was so pissed because I was definitely not trying to spend that much on a party. [Like, we are in a recession and my job refuses to give me hours, I am NOT about to just throw away a $20 on a party that was going to just be my sister and I after this girl bugged me about going out with her.] So I called her up and told her the new price and that I wasn’t trying to pay that. She said “oh wow do you want us to pick you guys up?” I said yeah because were not going in and it’s freezing!(it was definitely 15 degrees and below that night-no exaggeration!) So she then said “well I don’t wanna waste gas and have him drive all the way to get you guys and then have to come back here. We might as well just get the key and then come get y’all”. And yeah I understood that logic so I agreed and told her to go ahead and do that. But because it was so cold and my sister and I were wearing heels, we decided that we needed to find somewhere warm to go and quick. So I peeped a McDonald’s down the street and we started walking towards there when we saw that Penn Station was right down the street so we went there instead. We decided that it would take like 30 minutes max before they came to get us.
Sitting in the waiting room surrounded my funky people and hobos, both talking on the phone, my sister and I grew a little restless since it was already 12:50 and neither of us received a phone call or update as to when we were getting picked up. So I decided to call her and find out what was going on. I called her and the phone went to voice mail, a little angry, I called back but again the call went to voice mail. So then I got really pissed and just blew up her phone calling like 20 times before she finally picked up. By that time I was really heated, not because we hadn’t been picked up yet, but because she never called to see if we were okay or just to see if we found somewhere warm to wait. So i asked her where she was and she said she was still at the hotel. I asked, “Do you even know where we are?” she said “No where are you”, and I screamed “EXACTLY! You don’t know and you don’t even care! You never bothered to call to see if we were okay or if we found somewhere warm to go.” and she said “I knew you guys would find somewhere warm to go.” Like honestly, what the hell is that? Your best friend doesn’t even care where you are, leaving you to wander the damn streets knowing full well that she’s your ride but never decides to even call you for a whole hour? She even had the nerve to say “Honestly, I don’t feel like having this argument right now, I have a migraine.”
But anyway, before we hung up she said that they would be coming to get us soon. A little frustrated, I told my sister the conversation and we continued to wait. 1 o’clock came, 1:30 passed, 2 o’clock came, and my sister just got really livid and decided to find out what was going on. So she called “Girl” and once again she had to blow up her phone before she finally picked up. After she got off the phone she told me that “Girl” told her that she was laying down in the hotel because she had a migraine and that her boyfriend was talking with his uncle discussing what we could do in the city since they didn’t want to waste money after coming all the way out here by just going back home. After hearing this my sister got so angry she just started screaming. “So you mean to tell me that you two are in a warm hotel and you’re laying down while Valu and I are over here in the cold just waiting? Don’t you think I would like to be in a warm hotel too? Honestly, just tell your boyfriend to drive over here, bring Valu her fuckin shit, bring me my fuckin keys, so we can take the fuckin train home because I don’t have time for this bullshit!”
…and “Girl” hung up on her.
Pissed off, we decided that anyone who could do this to us cannot truly be a friend, because I could never imagine myself leaving a friend anywhere if the plan was to hang out together, especially some place that they don’t even know like that just so that I could lay up in a bed and “sleep”.
A little while after 2:15 her boyfriend called me from her phone (which was the biggest sign of immaturity to me) and informed me that he was on his way to come get us. We told him that we were at 34th and 7th(Penn Station) and to call us when he got outside. Mind you, we found out that the hotel was a couple blocks away and not a 30 minute ride (since that’s how long it took him to finally get to Penn Station). When he finally got there he was up the block and we had to walk up the street to get to the car. (Which I’m pretty sure was her doing. With a whole empty street full of parking he had to park all the way by the hotel up the street instead of right near the doorway? Let’s be real!)
We finally walk and get in the car and she wanna keep the “migraine” story up. Mind you, she didn’t even LOOK at us when we got in the car and just continued to lean her head to the side as if she was sleeping (at this point I’m wondering how the hell I could have ever been friends with someone so selfish). She didn’t even bother to mutter a “hi” or even try to turn around and explain what happened or even apologize to us(because anybody in their right mind would do that after abandoning a friend for 2 hours). Nope, she pretended as if nothing happened and at that point I promised myself that as soon as I got out of that car I would never speak to her again.
So we’re driving and my sister gets really cold. She started shivering and chattering her teeth so much that “Girl”’s boyfriend asked if she wanted him to turn the heat on for her and she said yes. 2 minutes did not even pass by before “Girl” clicked the heat completely off and rolled the window down. Knowing my sister, I had to calm her down early or we would have really had a problem. I then had to give my sister a pair of my socks because I was so worried about her. Not only was this childish but it was stupid because she’s the one that anybody should be having attitude with. But in any situation she always wants to believe that she’s the victim so of course she had to act like one.
But I digress, we drove on and without a good GPS system her boyfriend ended up taking the Lincoln Tunnel and had us heading towards New Jersey. We informed him (without an attitude!) that he was taking the wrong tunnel. But you can’t exactly turn around in a tunnel so after we got out, he turned around and was forced to pay the toll. We got back in the city and somehow ended up taking the Lincoln Tunnel AGAIN (but it wasn’t his fault because he’s not used to driving in NYC).
So just because of the level of frustration that we had and the anxiousness to get home and out of that car, my sister and I just burst out laughing (we had the option of either screaming or laughing and frankly I think we made the right choice.) So then the girl wanna turn around and say “Don’t make fun of him he’s doing the best he can.” At that point my sister went absolutely crazy, screaming all sorts of obscenities about the fact that she lost all rights to divert her attention to her and that she needs to turn around and go back to sleep “or whatever the hell it is you were doing over there.” So after their spat was over and her boyfriend got the right directions to the Mid-Town Tunnel from the toll woman, we were finally on our way home.
But of course we couldn’t go home without a little more drama right? Nope! On our way home, he’s speeding like a maniac and all I’m thinking is that only thing we need to make this night a liiittle bit better is if we got into a major car accident. But anyway, we’re in the car and the music is blasting and my sister starts singing a song, and of course “Girl” has to change the station, so she brushes it off and starts singing another one, and of course “Girl” has to turn the volume all the way down. But whatever right? If she wants to be a bitch she can be that. So a while passes and my sister just starts humming the song on the radio and “Girl” just shuts off the radio completely. How pathetic! Oh but it’s not because she’s being selfish! Oh no! It’s because she had a migraine guys! *rolls eyes*
So we FINALLY get close to home and she decides that she’s healthy enough to turn the radio back on and to sit up and have a full phone conversation with somebody, completely bashing someone whose supposed to be her friend, straight gossiping. And then gets off the phone to blast the radio as if she wasn’t supposed to have a “migraine”. So we finally pull up in front of her house (because remember that’s where my sister parked) and I get out and just told her boyfriend to have a good night. But my sister of course had to get out and completely curse her out for being a selfish bitch that never thinks about anyone else but herself. Then continued to tell her boyfriend that if he doesn’t be careful she’ll break his heart because that’s all she ever does, then before slamming the car door she warns her that if she ever steps one foot in our house ever again that she’ll “fuck her up and THEN kick her out.”
So there, that’s the long winded story. I’m just mad it took me so long to realize how selfish of person she was even though everyone had been telling me to watch out for her for years. But no, I stuck up for her and stayed by her side because that’s what a good friend does right? Yeah well, regardless, I refuse to allow something like that affect my other friendships and my trust towards people, so although our friendship is over, I’m not going to let it make me bitter.
So take my poll && comment with what you think.
(P.S. you don’t have to have an account to leave a comment, let me know what you think.)
January 8, 2009 at 11:23 PM
this is not an “i told you so” by any means but shit (i’m tight right now so cursing lol) like this is why i stopped bein friends with her. im jus happy that you saw it for urself because u were a good friend (and a good friend doesn’t just go off of people’s word) an i think that was the only way u were gonna believe wat everyone else was saying…CONGRATS!!! lol
January 10, 2009 at 12:36 AM
lmfao .. i been tellin you from day 1 but I guess its only that much better when you get a chance to do it for ya own reasons .. “Girl” is a dumb ass bitch & thas why Im glad I fxcked her up wif no hesistation in that bathroom .. lmaoo .. ahhh memories .. smh … anyway, i LOVE YOU VALU .. as selfish as anyone can be ,, you kno I would Never do anything even remotely as crazy as what this bitch did to yall ..
January 10, 2009 at 8:47 PM
i hope dat heifer bxtch really thought i was playin and comes over here…to those reading if you have anything to say about this particular person do us a favor and comment so she can open her eyes and realize the world doesnt revolve around her and this is NOT the first time she’s shxtted on a friendship…you do not need a profile to comment
January 11, 2009 at 5:01 PM
Reading this just made me upset because I put myself in your shoes and thought how I would react if MY BEST FRIEND did some sh*t like this…basically i would drop kick that b*tch and break both her ankles with no hesitation REAL TALK…”girls” like this need to be dealt with…i guess some people just don’t use their common sense because I dont know how she could even think she is justified in her actions..she either has no common sense or no damn conscience ’cause leaving you and your sister stranded for that long with not so much as a phone call and then wanna ignore you when you try to call is downright evil…and then wanna be petty and crack the window when your sister said she was cold…she did that out of spite as if she didn’t do anything wrong!… her ass is mentally unstable…best friend? please. she treated you like her damn enemy…but hey we go through things for a reason and the reason you went through this is to know she is not a best friend let alone a true friend so thank God for that…
January 11, 2009 at 5:41 PM
Lissa shoulda definately got a few hits in and gave her ass a real migraine. This is crazy
January 11, 2009 at 8:58 PM
Wow.
Honestly, coming from not only being prob the oldest one commenting, I assume…but also from having been thru things of this nature…
Everyone goes thru issues with their friends..(this is for nobody other than VAL.) But all this? Really Valerie? Venting gone awry?
This is the most childish display of emotions I have ever seen in my life.
I am sure you are a wonderful caring person, I will not take any sides as you can see…and regardless of how you feel or felt about this situation, this is really crossing the line and has really pushed farther beyond the matter at hand.
Now this is at the point where your maturity and ability to handle situations as an adult are into question.
I am again not calling anyone right or wrong…but you didnt have to stoop to this level darling.
I wish you all the best of luck in your quest for true friends and endeavors of such but this I felt, factual or not, was a little out of line..and I know deep down inside you know that.
You could have just as easily..Told ppl, you just realized something about her that you didn’t know before…and ended the friendship there and never mentioned her again. But cmon…this really makes those unbiased individuals reading, look people in general on a different light based on the way they handle situations.
Two wrongs do not make a right.
You can delete my comment if you like, I don’t mind..As long as you read it.
LuvLah&Liv,
DD
January 13, 2009 at 9:06 AM
see valu..!! i told you she was crazy no1 didnt want to believe me. y you think me and her didnt last.!! to much of a drama queen. And im kinda shock @ you that you let her slide like that. cuz ya ass should it got in poppin in front of the crib and mop her all over the yard.!! but you and your sister had every right. i think she use the uncle excuse to make it seem like her bf didnt get a hotel room to fux.!! lmao.. letz be real!!! lmao your gals felt for that.!! but hey you found out the hard way!! i told you & brit she is a selfish girl. no one wouldnt believe me.!! and im not shock she acted the way she acted. but i think that nite!! of ya two situation is was my party! @ vesta!! ya two should of called me..
but ya shari aka mrs jules. lmao she went throwback. can you say fourth floor. heels in the face..
but like i said!! im sorry ya went thru that. especially in the cold. next time let me kno if you attending one of my parties.!! remember i have no problem wit you >valu< i had a problem with the girl cuz she has no common sense.
oo ya brit!! wat up!! lmao!!!! see you in may!! miami!! baby!! lmao